Do you have a broken picker?

In college, I had a friend that said she had a "broken picker" which was her way of excusing every bad boyfriend that she ever had.

She dated guys that were emotionally unavailable, borderline abusive, and just plain ol' bad and wrong for her.

The truth was that she had a very low self-esteem, brought on by a highly critical Father, and she kept re-ripping off that painful band-aid every time she dated a guy that was just like her Dad.

She was never good enough. Was not smart enough. Would never be pretty/skinny/witty enough. Every guy found faults with her. Teased her. Ridiculed her. Belittled her.

What both she and I didn't know then, but I know now thanks to years of soul-searching, is that she can unlearn the limiting belief that she's not good enough. She can unsubscribe from her Father's critical view of her. She can rewrite her own story at any time that she wants.

She can decide today that she is good. Smart. Beautiful. Worthy.

And when that decision is made, everything shifts. She will no longer attract guys that treat her badly. Her vibration will only attract those that see her as she truly is: lovely, wonderful, capable, and worthy.

Are you like my college friend? Do you have a broken picker? It doesn't have to be only about romantic relationships either...this applies to all kinds of relationships, friendships, and acquaintances.

A lot of the time, even in adulthood, we choose friends that aren’t very good friends to us. These people talk about us behind our backs, manipulate us in and out of the larger group of friends, and even gaslight us when we bring up specific examples of times they left us out on purpose. It can be confusing to say the least.

If you need help sorting this all out, I gotchu. 😘

It can seem quite unattainable at first, but over time you will see how you can actually have healthy and fulfilling relationships. The key here is to Unsubscribe from what you thought you knew, so you can learn the new strategies to employ.